Music to my ears

Yesterday I heard the words 

Permanency 

and

Fost-Adopt

come out of our social workers mouth.

We have a new social worker (thank goodness) and we met for the first time yesterday. I really like her, but probably because she said those words. She was brief, she's new to this position and feels like if she's not talking, she doesn't need to be here. The other workers hang out with the kids and play with them for an hour. Either way is fine.

She still doesn't know bdad's status...again that's fine. 5 weeks without visits and we don't know if they'll start up again or when. She asked if we're a fost-adopt home. I said yes. She said she's going to get us a permanency worker. She's not entirely transferring the case to permanency because it's too early for that but she's going to have a worker contact us and get started on the case "just in case it goes there". She also mentioned that the way things are looking right now, it's very likely that's where we're headed.

She explained that with court being Aug 29, she has to have her recommendation in by Aug 12th. That's only 6 weeks away. What she didn't say, but what I already know is: within 6 weeks, bdad would have to

• start showing up for visits
• get back on a regular weekly visit schedule
• start supervised home visits
• do unsupervised home visits
• do overnight visits at his home

I'm not comfortable with saying this is impossible or it can't happen in the allotted time frame. But I can say what I was told a couple months ago by the social worker I didn't like. She said that in order for things to progress towards reunification in Aug, bdad would have to start home visits in June.

Each week we wait, and by the end of the week the sigh of relief gets a little bigger. We are very hopeful. Our regular social worker (through Angels) told me yesterday, "whatever you guys have been praying, just keep praying it because it seems to be working". I just pray that things don't progress with visits.

And I 

Thank You

for your continued prayers.

August is right around the corner.

Still Rising...

Bdad has missed 4 visits in a row. The circumstances are out of his immediate control but do count against him. Tomorrow will be visit #5 and unless a miracle happens for him, he will not be visiting tomorrow either. After that we don't know. No one really knows and we're all just waiting to find out what happens next. Each day could bring new information and sometimes it does.


Waiting...


I'm not a patient person but this whole adoption process with each of our children has forced me to become more patient. I just want to know what's happening and what's going to happen. But I guess that's for Heavenly Father to know, and for us to patiently wait to find out.

Hope Rising...Cautiously

Due to circumstances with bdad, visits are not happening right now. We don't know how long this will last. They could pick up again next week or next month. We don't know. So far 2 visits have been missed/cancelled.

Every Wednesday that goes by without a visit is better for us. We're continuing to pray that visits do not progress. Even if they continue doing visits the way they were is fine with me. What I don't want is Home visits and/or unsupervised visits. 

For now, we're enjoying the fact that visits just aren't happening. We're getting closer to the end and that makes each week very crucial.

Love these babies!!